Thinking of starting over
Help! Save My Dreads
Hey Myschyf, I just wanted to let you know, from someone who backcombed, they'll probably end up looking the same way. When I did mine, they were all nice and even. Then, probably from pulling my hair back for work, I ended up with knobby ends and weird half dreaded wispy ends. To be perfectly honest, I hate them. Even after almost 2 years! I'm keeping them that way, because I know eventually I will need to trim my hair a bit and they add character and individuality. It's a long, hard, frustrating road. I regret backcombing my hair, I really wish I would have let them free form. BUT what is done is done and for the most part I adore my dreads. I have thinner hair and a lot of thin dreadies. Over time, those knobby ends will kind of shrink, loose hair will get caught in them, and they'll smooth out. You won't be able to FEEL it, but when you look at what you think is a big old gnarly bumpy mess, it's actually nice and smooth and not so bad looking after all. I really do not recommend brushing out your natural dreads to switch to backcombed, it's just not worth it emotionally and physically. I've combed some of mine out when they were just 4 months old, it took hours and my shoulders hurt for days.
I'll tell ya something too, that I just thought of. I'm kinda not diggin my dreads right now. I'm in a bit of an effed up emotional place at the moment and I just don't like my hair much, even tho I love it if that makes much sense. Anyway, I get complimented daily on my dreads. I feel they look like absolute shit, but others love them. I'm not one to really care what others think of my right now, but it does help me get thru the day a bit when one of my customers says something 'Lookit you rockin those dreads, I LOVE it!' then go on their way. There ARE people out there thinking the same thing about your dreads, unfortunately all you're hearing is the shitheads saying yours don't look right. Those people can suck it!
updated by @mons: 07/22/15 11:56:59AM