How to split dreads safley. Really??
Thats what I thought. It seemed a bit crazy. I wonder how the dreads will look and feel in a year or even in a month..
Just out of curiousity I've been searching the internet on tutorials on how to split dreads (if there is a way to do it even?). Came across this video, and wondering, is this really a ok way to go about it??
Classic behavior of someone who abuses .. The behavior will escalate because it is a downward spiral of guilt which he stuns with even stronger and more desperate acts that leads to stronger guilt.
The man will not treat you with respect and love untill he treats himself with the same. And it's NOT your job to fix him.
There is not even need for you to continue to think about him or talk about him. Your job is to concentrate on yourself, what your next step is in your own happiness, how to move forward on your path.
Simple exercise to break negative thought patterns and filling the brain with the ability to choose joy (I promise, it is simple):
Every morning when you wake up, write down five things you are grateful for. It can be anything that you sleep well, the sun shines, that you have acquired insight, that you have great friends, that you ate such a good dinner yesterday .. Anything. Write down, characterized in gratitude, tell them one aloud to yourself and read them several times during the day. At night reflect on them. You will soon notice that the more times you feel gratitude the more you will find to be thankful for.
Also, try every day to think 'today I'll do something I'll thank myself for tomorrow'. It does not have to be something grand every time. Write a letter to a friend maybe, allow yourself to stop and smile, take a bracing walk ...
Relax your jaw, making room for the tongue in your mouth. Breathe.
When your body is still, your thoughts become still and that is where you will find the answers.
And again, listen to the audiobook Choose Joy by Kay Pollak.
(Pardon my spelling, english is not my first language.)
I feel your worries and pain.
I'll give you the best advice I can and it is to become aware that you, and only you, is the one that makes your choices. After you receive this recognition you can move on.
The next best advice I want to give you is to listen to Kay Pollak - Choosing joy.
It is available as an audio book and is great to hang out with while you take a walk, do the dishes, admire your dreadlocks, when you drink a cup of tea, sitting on the bus ....
I promise it will help you
I have used before, with my "normal" hair, before dreadlocks that is. And also use it om my face as a mask sometimes, so i know it has a nice cleaning feature to it... How ever its just that I'm not sure if it will damage dreadlocks in the long run, like if it gets stuck inside the dreads and erode from within...
I tried to search the forum and hoped to find some old post on the subject but no succsess. It would be interesting to hear from someone who has extensive experience.
Today, I looked through my hair a little more closely than I have done in a while. I usually leave it alone as much as possible. It was a great delight to discover how much is actually going on.I found several sections that are being developed to babylocs that I havent seen before.
It must be due to all the sex I've had in last few days
That easy, hu?
Do you think the tnr idea is a bad thing? Just to do a couple here and there, something to start with?
Dont know why but I think if there is a few dreads here and there the rest will tangle up more easily becouse they rub together.
I just really need things to happen, I need some progress. Washing with locking up shampoo and the bars from dreadlockshampoo and also I use the saltwaterspray in between washes.
And what about the wrapping, is it just for looks or does it have any advantages?