Time to Cut My Dreads.
I think you are gorgeous...with your dreads...I have been dealing with alot of confidence issues myself lately b'c of the past coming back to haunt me...I can tell you this, I thought I had dealt with my insecurities (therapy, losing weight, cutting my hair short, quitting drinking and smoking). But someone made some comments on facebook the other day that brought the low self esteem screaming back, like 10 years ago was yesterday. This does not have to do with your hair, work on doing good things for yourself. When I was at my lowest I had long curly pretty hair, when I felt my sexiest after all the work I did I had short 2" all over hair and rocked it, now I am growing my dreads and they did not make me feel the way I have been feeling the person who said those nasty things did. If anything the dreads will help you except yourself. Dont beat yourself up, I know its hard. Girls are made to feel like they have to compete constantly with their looks, you could be the most loving caring person in the world and still feel like that guy doesnt like you or that you dont measure up to some ridiculous standard. I know this sounds corny but it was advice I got from my therapist that really helped me in the long run. "Do not downgrade, call yourself names, or be mean to yourself" Pay attention to how many times a day you think or say out loud that your are stupid, fat, insert any other derogatory word here....make a point to correct yourself out loud everytime. You are not stupid or fat or sloppy. Also correct the other girls and woman in your life whenyou here them say it. Tell them not to say that about themselves. You will become aware that it is almost like breathing for woman to do this. (Btw I also do this for the men in my life b'c they are wonderful too That was long winded keep up on the forums the people here really are wonderful...they have reachedor they are trying to reacha level of acceptance that alot of people have not yet. Hugs your way.