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Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
10/04/11 01:14:26PM
39 posts

Sad story vent/rant..


Introduce Yourself

Keep the faith. I have a girlfriend who has alopecia and has lost much of her waist lenth hair. At first she was really withdrawn and depressed but after years of dealing with it she has learn to except herself and her condition. She truly is one of the most beautiful people I know and her hair has nothing to do with it. Make sure you dont bottle your feelings up inside, when you are sad or pissed off talk to someone. I hope that things turn around for you.

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
09/16/11 03:20:27PM
39 posts

Standing up for your dreads


Dreadlocks Journey Emotional Support

Sounds like a confidence issue with him...he maybe sees your actions asreflecting embarassment not at you but himself and he cant take the judgement that he gives out so freely. I see parents do this all the time. They insist that little johnny or mary keep their hair combed and tidy bc they thing it reflects badly on them. Maybe he should look into that a little more. Dont let his insecurities bother you wear your hair proud and confident, I have a feeling that if he saw other people diggin' ur dreads then he would change his mind (sad but often true). If he cant get past the dreads he would have a hell of a time getting past the other ways a woman grows and changes overtime. But if I had to guess he will grow up and not depend on what others think so much. You look beautiful in your pic.

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
09/13/11 06:09:17PM
39 posts

Do they need to be 'redid'?


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Open mouth insert foot...sounds to me like he was trying to make conversation and screwed up a little. Sometimes people get nervous by the sexiness :)

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/31/11 10:55:56AM
39 posts

Styling issues.


General Talk

I like using bobby pins and chopsticks (fashion show screams bed head anyways). I was standing at the CVS the other day and this mag cover is what I saw. Rock you sexy messed up hair :)

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/30/11 07:00:32PM
39 posts

Time to Cut My Dreads.


General Talk

joins in on group ((hug)). You can do this have fun on your second date :)

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/30/11 12:09:26PM
39 posts

Time to Cut My Dreads.


General Talk

I think you are gorgeous...with your dreads...I have been dealing with alot of confidence issues myself lately b'c of the past coming back to haunt me...I can tell you this, I thought I had dealt with my insecurities (therapy, losing weight, cutting my hair short, quitting drinking and smoking). But someone made some comments on facebook the other day that brought the low self esteem screaming back, like 10 years ago was yesterday. This does not have to do with your hair, work on doing good things for yourself. When I was at my lowest I had long curly pretty hair, when I felt my sexiest after all the work I did I had short 2" all over hair and rocked it, now I am growing my dreads and they did not make me feel the way I have been feeling the person who said those nasty things did. If anything the dreads will help you except yourself. Dont beat yourself up, I know its hard. Girls are made to feel like they have to compete constantly with their looks, you could be the most loving caring person in the world and still feel like that guy doesnt like you or that you dont measure up to some ridiculous standard. I know this sounds corny but it was advice I got from my therapist that really helped me in the long run. "Do not downgrade, call yourself names, or be mean to yourself" Pay attention to how many times a day you think or say out loud that your are stupid, fat, insert any other derogatory word here....make a point to correct yourself out loud everytime. You are not stupid or fat or sloppy. Also correct the other girls and woman in your life whenyou here them say it. Tell them not to say that about themselves. You will become aware that it is almost like breathing for woman to do this. (Btw I also do this for the men in my life b'c they are wonderful too :) That was long winded keep up on the forums the people here really are wonderful...they have reachedor they are trying to reacha level of acceptance that alot of people have not yet. Hugs your way.

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/30/11 11:14:36AM
39 posts

Beginner Dreadheads & Their Baby Dreads


General Talk

18 days today and I was them every other day with dr bronner baby no scent. I thinkthey're bangin'so far. Ummm lets see, the weather here is 105 today and 109 yesterday and humid. After reading some diff posts I think the climate is an important factor when your talking about progress or lack there of, along with your hair type. I use witch hazel on my scalp alot because I have excema, and baking soda and acv every so often. Anyways sorry I cant seem to add pics to my posts so i just attached them.

Cant wait to see your pics. After being on here for a while now I am blown away by how beautiful everyones dreads are new and mature, they suit each person so perfectly.

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/27/11 07:34:08PM
39 posts

huricane irene watch live


General Talk

We went through Ike, Rita, and Katrinia. We lost power like that everytime. Mind your temper when things get uncomfortable everyone starts getting really cranky.Texting is usually a good way to keep in touch with friends and family when you cant get a signal for a while. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you. Stay safe, bless you.

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/25/11 10:31:35AM
39 posts

Hello Everyone!! Just joined and just started my journey to dreads =)


Introduce Yourself

Not sure so much about getting past wild and messy...thats the look I was kinda going for :)

I envy your climate we are in the middle of a drought and this weekend the temp will be about 105 here in Houston TX. I went to Minnisota once and thought I was going to freeze to death and it was 22 degrees. I dont know how long I would make it up there. Welcome to group everyone here has been really super nice and helpful.

Patty Haynes
@Patty Haynes
08/25/11 10:52:27AM
39 posts

paganism in a christian society


Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures

Quantum Theory is fascinating to me I think it combines spirituality, nature, and science together beautifully. I have dealt with thanatophobia (fear of death) all my life, and I have found that learning is this best medicine. If I keep teaching myself things I didnt know before I am a little less fearful than the day before. Right now I am learning meditation and breathing. I hope to be able to astral project one day. I am also learning how to let go of consumerism and appearance which has proven to be quite the challenge. I would think if anything consumerism is this societies religion above all else.

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