I assumed thick dreads would be heavier because the section itself would be heavier and pull more. I don't know, I want dreads for life, but I hope I don't end up with neck pain or anything because of it.
Yep, it'll wash out just fine, I can attest to that!
It's apple cider vinegar that you want, really, and you only need like a cap full of it, just a small amount, because it's conditioning. And don't use it the same time as the baking soda, do the baking soda first, then rinse it out, then do the apple cider vinegar.
I don't know if it dissolves it, but it sure seems like it. Some parts of my dreads had so many flakes in them that they were rock-hard, literally. Two or three washes of the baking soda (I didn't pour it over my head, I soaked my dreads and scalp in it) and they were all gone. Definitely give it a go, and use some rosemary and tea tree oil too, both of which are meant to help. Only a few drops.
How was the 2 year old dread started? You can use jojoba oil to try to condition it and soften it a bit.
Anyway, they don't look too bad. If you did it once to start off with, it'll be fine your hair will loosen on its own, and then it'll start to dread up again, so don't worry!
They look crocheted. Quite messy though so maybe he leaves them alone now but started them that way.
You get conflicting advice here too, because every member has a different opinion. You can't just, you know, get rid of all the people who don't agree with you in order to create one solid, non-conflicting bit of information. When all is said and done, you can only tell people what you think, what you've experienced, what you've researched. If they ignore it or choose to listen to someone else, you've done your job and they'll have to learn for themselves.
Sure it is. Having dreads isn't just about getting advice, there are a good few people there with dreads who don't need advice. They're more than happy to give advice if it's needed, but when it's not needed, it's a good community-style place for people to chat with other dreadheads. Your vision for what a dreadlocks-related forum is is different to theirs, of course.
1. Elijah has joined this site purely to arrange things with you. Go over to DreadsUK, message him on Facebook, instead of waiting for him to come back here, if you want to get it sorted out.
2. They're generally against waxing and they give decent advice because they post about their own experiences. If they haven't had bad experiences with crocheting, why would they advise against it? The point is, they educate what they can, but either way, regardless of your starter method, maintenance or lack of maintenance, they're cool with you.
3. Why do all dreadheads have to be role models? So basically, no black person can ever be portrayed in a negative way because it's a bad role model to kids? Dreadheads are people, they're not the epitome of perfection or godliness, they're just people. Some sell weed, some commit rape, some dedicate their life to charity, some fall on all other parts of the spectrum.
4. The forum organises meet-ups a lot. They're like a community, so of course they're going to get to know each other by making threads for non-dread subjects. And hi, is there something wrong or shameful about discussing sex now? Dude, you go on about naked people being natural and beautiful and stuff, but talking about it makes it a bad forum? And sharing music is bad? Why does a forum have to be 100% dedicated to just one thing? That's not how you connect and get to know each other.
Yes, you do need to educate first, but if they don't take your advice, that's it, you just respect their decision and (if you care for the person) you're there to support them if they need your support in the future. Eshantha is saying that the way in which you speak comes across as judgmental or harsh, which is why a few people get scared away from the site after a little while. Like, imagine if the first comment you see is, "YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE USED WAX, WAX IS EVIL." It's going to feel like an attack even if it isn't an attack at all.