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Is a womans sexual appeal/value really in her hair?

Dready love

"there are many facets to a woman's sex appeal.. those who just try to search for appeal in voice, eyes, walking style, waist, hips, breats, butt etc will always restrict themselves to a uni-dimensional view of the world as a whole. a woman's sensitivity, her compassion, modesty, service, trustworthiness, will power, value of truthfulness n clearance of thoughts is what makes her more feminine from inside. peace "

That was beautifully said. Amen to that!

Ojas Acharya said:

hello there, i agree with u on this, dreads can actually work as an effective tool for a woman to repel away unwated men as the general universal misconception of dreads being unattractive and dirty still holds itself firm... on the other hand u may end up finding some more trustworthy n open minded soulmates (friends, lovers, companions) who wont judge u on ur external appearances.. in fact they will try to know n understand the real person in u and try to discover the real beauty in u. the bond thus will be much more stronger and the connection will be on much higher level.

its funny how people tend to spend hours together just to look right and perfect but still somewhere are unhappy about their whole appearance.. on the other hand when u leave ur hair to dread u tend to embrace ur real being and accept and stay happy no matter how 'imperfect' u may look. so much more freedom when u arent a slave of people's judgements.

there are many facets to a woman's sex appeal.. those who just try to search for appeal in voice, eyes, walking style, waist, hips, breats, butt etc will always restrict themselves to a uni-dimensional view of the world as a whole. a woman's sensitivity, her compassion, modesty, service, trustworthiness, will power, value of truthfulness n clearance of thoughts is what makes her more feminine from inside. peace

Is a womans sexual appeal/value really in her hair?

Dready love

Sheba,

Its really interesting to hear your input, I'll be moving to India come Jan. and I am often followed, stalked, grabbed, rubbed and harassed while in India. One of the reasons I'm dreading is to be clear even in my appearance that I'm a deeply spiritual woman and not the easy white rich woman they were conditioned to be attracted to. I hope it helps dissuade unwanted attention.

Sheba Basu said:

Sexuality is within a women and how she carries herself, I come from a rigid Indian culture where women tie their hair and oil them regularly to grow it long and not because they like it that way but becausetheirelders tell them that they will never find suitable proposals otherwise. I disagree with my culture and proudly wear my dreads, sometimes I have to defend my hairstyle because in India only devotees of Gods like Shiva have dreads, but I keep explaining to people that my hairstyle is what gives me a meaning to myexistenceas a person. So damn sexual appeal, my boyfriend loves me for who i am

Is a womans sexual appeal/value really in her hair?

Dready love

I originally posted this as a blog post, but have decided to move it here as a discussion.

Its been long accepted that women with long flowing, soft hair are considered more feminine, attractive and socially desirable. In every country I've been to this is the accepted view. A woman's value in all societies is based on her sexuality/attractiveness. On the whole dreads are not seen as attractive (unless of course your asking someone who has dreads.) So knowing this I decided to dread my hair to dissuade undesirable males who are quick to ask me out without knowing a thing about me. I thought dreading would act as a filter and for the most part its working. Living in L.A. were everyone is an actor or model its easy to feel a little out of place and undesirable, now that my hair has changed my value in this patriarchal society is now made lesser and its apparent. Has anyone else experienced it this way? How do women feel they are perceived with dreads as opposed to before the dreads? Is anyone having different (better or worse) dating experiences?

updated by @siri-nam-simran-kaur: 02/14/15 03:29:43AM

Children with dreads

General Questions

Currently we are at a wait and see stage. We will be moving to India in Jan. and the significance of dreads and the view on dreads is different all around so I'm not too concerned about the social stigma.

I totally agree with regard to waiting and if its still an interest then pursuing it. I first had dreads at 12 years old and changed my mind and cut them off after a year. Years later after committing my life to the teachings of Vedanta, spending a lot of time in India and understanding the significance of having dreads I decided to do it again, now as a representation of the way I live my life. I'll wait it out and see if it comes up again. But all and all I want her to feel like she can express who she is throughout her journey of discovery.

Children with dreads

General Questions

Nameste,

My 8 year old has been asking to have her hair dreaded and I'm on the fence about it. Children aren't the best at committing to something and the chances of her changing her mind are good. On the other hand it might be a valuable experience for her. What do you guys think?

updated by @siri-nam-simran-kaur: 01/13/15 09:51:25PM

Dandruff and tea tree oil

General Questions

I have no idea if I have hard water. I live in Los Angeles and it seems just about everything and everyone here is a bit hard so I'd venture to say yes . Rosemary huh? Great! I love rosemary. Thanks for the tips. What do you recommend washing with? In India the sadhus wash with Ganges water only, its a beautiful sight to see them in packs flipping their locks in the air while chanting.

Dandruff and tea tree oil

General Questions

Sat Nam, Namaste, As-salamu alaykum,

I started dreading a month ago and have been getting really bad dandruff. I'm washing with Dr. Bronner's soap about twice a week and have tried tea tree oil which yielded no results. Any suggestions?

updated by @siri-nam-simran-kaur: 01/13/15 09:51:24PM

Tea Tree Tingle Conditioner

General Questions

I've never been found of brushing my hair which is one of many reasons I dreaded it. I commited to brushing (mostly the middle and ends) once a week. I held it at the base so it didn't hurt my scalp and brushed it well enough so it didn't dread. That's it just a quick brush through once a week. If you can spend a few minutes on here then I'm sure you can manage that.

Peace and good luck

before and after dreadlocks pictures comparing dreads no dreads

Dreadlock Picture Gallery

Ha, I love that Soaring eagle.

Ah, impatience is a symptom of our fast paced, instant gratification, microwave, disposable relationship type culture. We want it all and we want it right now. I think dreads are the residue of a time when people were patient with the unfolding of their lives. Happy to be apart of the wonderful people who are bringing effortless unfolding to our infinite potential back to the west.

soaring eagle said:

what do u mean you dont have time to go natural are you going to die next week? your alive you have time going natural happens as you live your life and usualy happens faster then you expect it to

throw away your comb today and wait a couple weeks and see what happens

itds funny when ppl say they dont have toime to go natural like they need dreads today

before and after dreadlocks pictures comparing dreads no dreads

Dreadlock Picture Gallery

Oh my God, so adorable and his hair is very full as well.

hippie mama said:

this is my son before he had dreads

<~~~and this is about his hair now. my husband and i both have had our dreads so long that we would need a scanner or something cuz we didnt have a digital camera then. but heres gauge baby man, hes had his starting since about july or auguast of last year

updated by @siri-nam-simran-kaur: 07/25/15 11:53:36AM