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Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
05/01/13 10:47:43AM
56 posts

I'm starting to struggle with my journey :(


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thanks. I'm just having a hard time feeling like I look professional cuz the school won't let me wear my scarves I usually wear to cover some of the work in progress and look a little neater in my student ID. I can wear it to school tho? I've never had anyone say they can't recognize me because I had a scarf. I have my mom crocheting me a dread sock, but it takes her forever to to make anything so it's not done yet. I hope this gets better. I have so many people that don't like it and aren't afraid to tell me. I only have one friend that likes them and she's away at school right now. It just seems like I need some encouragement that I'm no ruining my hair. I had some before and brushed them out and my mom and husband are just waiting for me to brush it again. I try telling them it's never gonna happen, but they think I won't see anything through to the end. And I have so much stress right now that I'm just discouraged about everything. I keep going and keep trying, but one way I cope is to dump on myself for a while and mope, then I get better and just keep going. I'll get there eventually, wherever I'm going lol.

Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/25/13 10:06:47PM
56 posts

I'm starting to struggle with my journey :(


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I have so much conflict with my hair right now. It seems like it's not doing right cuz I keep it pulled back all the time, but I can't leave it down at work and that's where I always am. I take my hair down and it's all one clump of knots. When I'm off for a while it separates and starts looking good. It gets dirty too often cuz the weather is warming up and I'm sweating at work everyday. I feel like I wash it too much. I used to only feel dirty after a week or so, now it's like every other day I wash my hair. I'm starting school next Friday and I really don't have time to be worrying over my hair. I guess I just need some encouragement to keep at it.


updated by @niesje-sigrid: 01/13/15 09:51:39PM
Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/21/13 08:43:22AM
56 posts

Any polyamorous dreadies?


Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures

That's interesting. I figured it could work with enough patience and love :)

The Hippie Circle said:

I currently have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. We all live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, and help raise my girlfriend's son. My gf is lesbian and my bf is straight. I love them both equally for different reasons. They have a relationship, too, but it isn't sexual, though we have had a few threesomes over the years.

Yes, sometimes one feels left out or not the favorite, and sometimes I feel like I have to be fair or distribute my affections equally. Generally when these feeling arise, we try to talk it out. Polyamory takes looooooots of communication for it to work. There are a few things that we are constantly working on but when all three of us are honest with ourselves and each other we sort things out and move on. Patience is clutch.

Neither politics nor religion factor into our relationship, nor do we sleep around outside the circle. For the most part I am the poly one but both of my partners signed on with full frontal honesty from me. People think I get my cake and eat it too. :) This could be, and they are free to choose whatever they like, but I looove my life and really enjoy sharing my cake. And the frosting, too.
Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/14/13 01:50:02PM
56 posts

Just plain mean


Life Issues Facing Dreads

I've been told that dreads are cool, just on dudes. Girls shouldn't have dreads. This came from white and black people. I worked with a Jamaican lady a couple years ago who said she had to cut her dreads off or she would never get married.

JavaLizard said:

As bad as that sounds, it is funny. Because let's be honest most white kids I knew growing up fit that description to a T. I don't know how many free spirit, well, dirty kids went to my high school. They didn't bathe, brush their teeth, smoked pot, and love bob marley, sported the rasta stuff.

I think this cat just ran I to too many of them. Because what is common is that these free spirits, when they talk to blacks, try to relate to us like they are black inside.

Sad truth race and lifestyle, social norms play a big thing. There is a section on here like hardships with dreads, well that is a white thing. My mom is the only person giving me grief because she likes my curly hair. I do not think he is talking anymore than the social side to it. Most blacks don't know the Indian influence in the Caribbean. In fact most white don't know beyond marley.

But the biggest thing is it is sexist. Some white girls look great with dreads, hey get away with murder. But guys not so much. It is a crazy world in which we live. I think if we saw more white guys and gals in suits with dreads the stigma would change, but until then what this guy says is a common view, right or wrong. It still made my day, I laughed a lot.
Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/14/13 01:25:45PM
56 posts

Just plain mean


Life Issues Facing Dreads

Ummmm, I haven't greased my hair with anything. I also don't have a "beaver tail" and I wash my hair every 4 days. I still have dreads forming. And they don't come any whiter than me.

Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/12/13 11:08:51AM
56 posts

Anybody have toddlers with dreads?


Dreads in the Family

I have a 2 year old girl, Faye. Her hair dreads on it's own so well. I'm constantly battling her hair to keep out the tangles and it sections nicely. But she's so dirty! Every night I give her a bath and wash her hair. After the bath I apply leave in conditioner and comb it through. Even after washing, when I comb in the conditioner I comb out food and gunk from the day. I wonder if anybody else dreaded their toddler's hair and had any problems keeping it clean? I don't want her to have any issues with dread rot. Any advice? If I knew I could keep it clean, I would throw away our comb right now, cuz her hair really wants to dread. I'm sick of fighting what it wants to do!


updated by @niesje-sigrid: 01/13/15 09:50:59PM
Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/12/13 10:37:25AM
56 posts

Any polyamorous dreadies?


Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures

I know the difference, I just was asking about both and only got a response about polygamy. If anybody wants to add in about polyamory, I'm open to any info :)

Randi said:

I think everyone is confusing polygamy and polyamory as the same thing, which it's not. Polygamy is rooted in Mormon culture and is one man married to several women. It is done so bc they feel a religious calling to it, dating it back to the biblical days of men having multiple wives. Polyamory is when several people, who are not necessarily officiated with a religion, date and perhaps live together as a unit and sometimes family. It can have many different scenarios as far as how many and who all is involved. Many people find it unnatural to be monogomous and feel that love shouldn't be bound to just one person.
Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/12/13 10:33:17AM
56 posts

Any polyamorous dreadies?


Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures

I'm not sure how I'd feel. I still haven't wrapped my head around being in this kind of marriage myself which kinda important for me to understand it better.

Noodle-Doo said:

I don't think we're going in circles. This is the point I'm trying to get to, and the thing I don't understand. How does the partner who isn't the favourite feel about it? How would you feel if it was you, Niesje?

Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/10/13 10:37:44AM
56 posts

Any polyamorous dreadies?


Alternative Lifestyles and Subcultures

The people I'm referring to are mormon and were raised with multiple wives. So maybe they're just more equipped to handle it because they were raised that way. But they see each other like sisters. They love each other as much as their husband, but just as sisters.

Niesje Sigrid
@niesje-sigrid
04/09/13 08:11:10PM
56 posts

Help me keep my dreads!


Help! Save My Dreads

I agree with Mike, sorry. I've wanted dreads since early childhood, but my mom thinks they're nasty, so I'm 20 and just started them last december. It sucks, but their house, their rules. It sounds like you've tried reason;ing with them and informing them, and they honestly, sincerely don't like it.

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