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Beckysan
@Beckysan
02/25/13 06:27:09PM
17 posts

Active Outdoor Maintenance?


Dread Maintenance

Good Evening!

I have a question about maintenance that I wasn't really able to find browsing through the forums. I spend a lot of time out in the elements, but even more so during the spring, summer, autumn. I am constantly in the sun, out on the water, in the wind etc.

Typically, by the end of September, I am trying to do heavy conditioning treatments to bring some life back to my hair (pre dread).

Am I going to have to worry about that with my dreads? If so is there anything I can do to alleviate some of that stress that I put on my hair? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!


updated by @Beckysan: 01/13/15 09:47:39PM
Beckysan
@Beckysan
02/24/13 02:49:09PM
17 posts

...At Last


Introduce Yourself

Thanks for the advice Barrellady :)

I have been having fun watching them change and take on their own personality. My husband and kids think it's pretty cool too. I saw your locks and I think they're lovely! The thing I love the most about dreadlocks is that I really don't care what my hair looks like anymore. You said it.. keep them clean, separate sections and sit back and enjoy the ride. I've been like that most of my life, except I had to fight super fine, super straight hair to stick in a pony. No more!!!

Beckysan
@Beckysan
02/24/13 01:31:01AM
17 posts

...At Last


Introduce Yourself

Sorry, been busy working away trying not to cause too much trouble for kiddos.

I think because of all the advice that I found here, I am able to salvage them. They are dry right now (been giving them some jojoba oil with tea tree and lavender) but I have been using Vicky's products as well. I think they need a little rest, but they've been shrinking like crazy! Can I take that as a good sign?

Beckysan
@Beckysan
02/23/13 11:40:21PM
17 posts

...At Last


Introduce Yourself

Hello-

Just wanted to introduce myself (welcome package highly suggests it). My name is Rebecca, but most of my friends call me Beckysan and I am very happy to have found this site.

I have been dreading for only 4 months but have learned a lot. Especially what not to do. Which is the story of my life, but you know, rather than be bitter, I'd rather look at it as road markers to look back and measure against.

I could be upset (should be is probably a better word) that I got conned by DHHQ but you know, now I am here. Now I know better. And I have all of you wonderful people to thank for that. So thank you all for your time, patience, and awesome pics and I look forward to getting to know peeps better!

Attaching my pic with dreads, sorry it's not better, but I am enjoying the lighting I am working in right now! Hope everyone is having an awesome night!


updated by @Beckysan: 01/13/15 09:47:29PM
Beckysan
@Beckysan
05/08/13 06:24:54PM
17 posts

The Demon Drink


General Questions

Hey...I was just perusing through the site and stumbled upon this particular post.

I too come from an alcoholic home, but it wasn't what I thought would be 'alcoholic'. My parents didn't binge drink, my dad went to work every day, my mom had supper on the table between 5 and 6 PM. All outside appearances, people would think that there was nothing wrong with my family. My aunts and uncles were those kinds of alcoholics (skid row bum types), my parents weren't. Yet, they were still alcoholic. When my dad drank, he couldn't stop. Most of the time he would be the life of the party, but every so often he would get mean.

My mom liked it because it was the 'social' lubrication that she 'needed'. It made her feel more important, smarter and better than what she really felt. It also became her escape from life. To this day, I remember my mom reading me stories, but not being 'present'. I remember her kissing me and putting me to bed, telling me how much she loved me with nasty beer breath. But this is normal in most alcoholic homes.

Alcoholism isn't just the physical manifestation of the 'allergy', but it's also a spiritual disease that often times stretches through generations and through entire families. It took me marrying an alcoholic (no surprise there...) and hitting a bottom of my own before I was willing to understand what alcoholism is. Because I grew up in an alcoholic home, I have a lot of alcoholic tendencies, but I am not an alcoholic. I've tried...just not it! I can party hard, but there comes a point where I don't enjoy the effects of alcohol on myself or friends. I can stop, with out counting of how many I've had. But I did worry for a long time that I could end up like my mom and become an alcoholic at the ripe old age of 42.

My husband has 8 years of sobriety this year, my dad had that many before he passed away at 55 from gall bladder cancer. They did achieve this through AA, and they had (from what I have seen) good groups of folks to help them. People are quick to knock things they don't know, and it's not for everyone. But I have seen AA help bottom of the barrel drunks turn their lives around to become the upstanding human beings they were meant to be. Most alcoholics I know are absolutely brilliant, hilarious and wonderful people, they just can't stop drinking. Eventually you see them set themselves up for failure and things progress until they are desperate and it becomes a matter of life and death. That's how it was with my dad and my husband.

My mom, continues to find new bottoms. She does not currently do anything to take a look at herself, but I know that today, if she could stop, she would. So I don't have that expectation anymore. I can't get caught up in her drama either, as I am a mom and a wife and I have a job etc. The most compassionate thing I can do for her, is to let her find that willingness for herself.

No one but you can call yourself an alcoholic. I can read what you wrote, but I am not an alcoholic so I can't say 'yup, that's it'...but I do know how little I actually knew of alcoholism until I sat down to read a big book and attend Al-Anon meetings. So if you're still curious, sit down and read Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book), as it does detail types of drunks, all the reasons leading up to drinking and what alcoholism is and does to a body. Good Luck, something watches over drunks and fools, I think that just about covers everybody :)

Beckysan
@Beckysan
02/24/13 03:03:44PM
17 posts

skin has become balanced and free of blemishes since dreading!


Introduce Yourself

Yes! I saw the difference as well. I didn't realize how much affect my previous 'organic' shampoos were really causing me issues. I used the desert essence stuff, which is still good, but it had things like mineral oil in the conditioner.

I was equally amazed at all of the hair that started growing when I stopped using those products. I have since started to ease my family into the 'no poo' routine because of it. My husband loves it (he's still up in the air about wanting to dread) and my daughter likes to pick the oils we add to her wash. I will probably break down and get some of the 'normal' shampoo that Vicky makes for them, to have on hand and for my family to try.

Beckysan
@Beckysan
03/10/13 06:08:55PM
17 posts

dreads and jobs


dreads jobs employment issues

I work in IT as a QA Analyst for a large medical supply company. When I started dreading, no one was surprised, and you know, no one really cared.

I would hope that in this day and age, more and more employers are really starting to see that putting people in a 'suit and haircut' doesn't always make them 'productive' or 'good' employees.

We still have a corporate dress policy, but it is very relaxed. Most of the time it is supposed to be business casual, but most of us wear denim. I tend to dress up when we have suits or upper management in town, or if we're meeting with consultants etc: I have yet to experience anyone saying anything to me about my job performance related to my dreads. I could have seen this happening had I continued to try and dread the DHHQ way though ;) According to them, the work I was supposed to put into my dreads would have been a full time second job!!

Before I started the dread journey, I didn't look at the corporate policy until after I was well on my way. It says nothing about dreadlocks (or piercings or tattoos), it just says that we need to be clean. Most people who have asked me about my dreads, have asked if I am blogging to show the time line (no) or if they can touch them (yes) or if I am rasta (no)

I don't see them getting in the way of anything unless someone has a stick up their behind, which in some cases, there are probably some people out there who do, but most employers I know, are aware that hair style does not reflect capability in any sense.

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