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Dazed and Confused Blues

Dready love

You all are so amazing and SUCH beautiful spirits!

All of these responses brought me joy and happiness of course I still feel a little unsettled, with the thought of him with other girls and potentially running into him.. and having to change my mind from a fixed idea to an ever changing one.. which is life.. I'm surprised we don't have it hard wired already that change is ok! .. well some people have a better handle on it than others.. I just wish these things weren't so hard and that there was a definite way to come to a conclusion and move on with it either together or separate.. I feel like you should know someone well enough after 2 and a half years to know if it's worth working on and saving and especially when living together.. I told him I would give it a chance.. he's the hesitant one.. and what if after I leave he realizes he misses me and wants me back and at that point I've met someone else? even if that someone else was just a flame.. I don't want to feel like i never gave it my all because I feel like I did.. and that's my thirst for his all. I know he tried his very best.. and now he's pooped but being hyped up to get back out into the world by his friends when they know how good our relationship was I'd like to hope for the best for both of us truly.. no matter what happens.. you all are right; we don't know what the future holds; the key I'm concluding is in the moment, happy and content with what I'm doing right now.. Not thinking about the "what ifs" It's just hard because like you said Soaring Eagle, there's so many scumbags out there.. I don't want to end up being blind sighted again.. and the new hobby I picked up is surfing! It's been an amazing outlet and connection to Earth and the water element to remind me to go with the flow and not resist those waves that are coming no matter what.. The trick and hardest part is hanging on , or getting dragged under until I can make my way to the surface.. So I'm practicing until staying a float is effortless. <3

~Marissa

Dazed and Confused Blues

Dready love

Hey everyone!

So, I'm seeking some advice on my situation.

Basically, after 2 and a half year of living with my partner, whom I saw myself marrying, kids, house the whole 9 yards.. He also agreed that we were the perfect match for each other; spiritually, energetically, vibrationally and compatibly. However, we had gone through some intense situations throughout our relationship, but what relationship doesn't? I'm not talking crazy abuse, but disagreements here and there.

Well recently we had an argument that was definitely the worst one yet.. and after taking a break and giving each other space for a couple of weeks, I'm back at the house we lived together in, with him.. but everything feels different.. the love that we have for each other is still there.. yet we both feel distant.. him more than me it seems.. He brings up a lot of the issues we encountered in the past and doesn't seem to be able to move forward.. Where as I have been able to move forward, learn, grow and not do the same thing twice in my futures. I was so disappointed to have a conversation with him that involved us going separate ways, after believing so much in our love that I only saw him in my future, and our future together. Now I'm faced with the difficulty of living with him, while not being with him.. until he figures out if he feels like things are worth working on..while we still share the bedroom.

This brings tears to my eyes, because I value myself so much that it's my expectation that the partner I'm with after knowing me that long should know if I'm worth fighting for , if our relationship is worth saving.

But we are young, 22&24 and he has a friend that lives the "single" life.. my partner claims he only wants to be with me but that the things we have gone through have been "a lot " for him I'm starting to think that I'm too much woman for him, too intense, or just really not compatible with him anymore...

The hardest part, that I'm seeking advice on , is while I'm living here he wants to be cuddly, act like were together at times, wants to hang out with me- yet he doesn't want to commit.. and now I'm confused if I should move on because I know there are "a million fish in the sea" and perhaps there is someone else out there for me in the future??

I don't know how I feel about it, because I really believed he was a true love of mine. That was going to last.. How do I change that idea I have in my mind? How do I choose if I should go my own path and not stay here waiting for him to tell me if he really wants to be with me again or not?

A part of me is curious to know what else is out there.. but a big part of me knows the love we have and had was so amazing, unlike anything with anyone else, I would hope that I could find that again?

He's also been making me feel like everything has been my fault when I know it's not, but he's not trying to make me feel bad but it iss he was a great boyfriend and theres not much that I have to complain about other than things involving communication.. this whole thing is so confusing.. first true loves.. first house..2 cats!! .. (that would be staying with him if I left) It just doesn't seem fair or right for me to feel like I'm being dangled by a string.. I need clarity.. I can't seem to decide for myself.. why can't I find more strength and confidence to make life decisions to better my life? I feel scared to be alone on my own for the first time.. and I'm addicted to his love I know he wants my love as well, hence why he doesn't want me to move out.. but is that him wanting the cake and eating it too? He's not the type of guy to sleep around.. But he is independent

I need more independence, strength, courage, clarity, and most of all, words of wisdom!

Thank you everyone who took the time to read this and endure my situation.. <3 and peace.

~Marissa

updated by @marissa-victoria: 10/17/19 10:22:14AM

How do you take your vegan coffee?

General Questions

If you want to avoid soy in soy milk however, I would use rice milk..It's really easy to make and really yummy when you had cinnamon. (almost a horchata[supertastydrink])

Quinoa should become your best friend! It's so tasty and good for youuu; AND you can cook it then mash it and flatten to make quinoa pancakes almost or chunks to fry up for added protein in your salads/soups.

Soups are also amazing and easy to make with a vegan diet. All it takes is vegetable broth, veggies, noodles, any other type of grain, and quinoa for protein!

Also, look into Iyurveda..Im not sure if your familiar with it or not.. it's a way of life that involves diet and wellness exercises but it is a mostly vegan diet if you can find a cookbook..like the Iyurvedic Kitchen.

Goodluck!!

goin natty, what do i do w/ my hair till it dreads?

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Hey Lala! Glad you are on the natural dreading journey like I am! It is a beautiful process that requires a lot of patience, which should contribute to your spiritual growth. Try not to expect super quick results but at the same time there are so many changes I noticed over night for sure!!

But you cannn do baking soda washes with salt which not only deep cleans your dreads but it does lock the hair up significantly after washes.

You could also wear a hand band, or a dreadie rasta beanie Good luck!!

Stringy Blingy

Dread Maintenance

Thank You very much Moon Raven!!

:))

Stringy Blingy

Dread Maintenance

okay good to know !!! Thank you everyone for the input I guess my solution is more patience ))

Stringy Blingy

Dread Maintenance

Awesome thanks for your reply !!

I just wondered if most of the dread will be thick then these dinky little ends lol.

:P

Stringy Blingy

Dread Maintenance

Hey friends !!

So I'm about 7 months into my journey and it has gone by so quick!!

My hair has progressed greatly in all this time. However I'm noticing that it looks as though the ends are getting stringy??!

I'm not sure what phase I'm in, if its normal, But I'm wondering what is going to follow...?

I'm also hoping the ends aren't thinning and that maybe the dreads are just thickening up?!

They are definitely thicker from the scalp about half way down until the ends....

What do you guys think? Have you been there before?? What happens next?

Much Love !! <3

updated by @marissa-victoria: 01/13/15 09:56:05PM

Beginning Yoga?

dready interests

Hi Jayke, first of all, welcome to the world of Yoga!!

You are in for a life changing experience if you stick to a daily practice.

I work at a Yoga studio, and I also have my own practice. And I would honestly reccommend trying

every form of Yoga. Start with basic movements and sun salutations and work your way up to more advanced poses, all while breathing and maintaining proper alignment and a clear mind.

I would find a studio near you and start with a community who is at the same level as you, usually studios have beginner classes. Along with an array of extra events and workshops outside of classes.

Well work the small fee that will give you benefits that are priceless.

Sooner or later when you are familiar with the asanas and pranayama you will be able and comfortable to take yoga with you on the go, wherever you are, at all times practicing yoga.

good luck friend.

:]

To Bang or not to Bang?

General Questions

If I were to cut them it wouldn't be short I've always had like mid-face length bangs when I have had them. And I usually butterly them so their at an angle.

But Laura thats also a great idea, thats what i'm thinking is to just let em go and see how they separate/form and I'll totally get a better feel once they do that!