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i agree exactly, expecting dreads to be maintained in the early stages is pretty unrealistic. it's a process. you're either all in or should just wait until ready.

Kimberly Eve said:

Hi, I'm a woman doing neglect and wouldn't have it any other way. If you want "maintained" dreads, you're kind of out of luck. Dreads are wild, beautiful, and free <3.
In my understanding, TnR comes undone anyway and mainly helps with sectioning. Sectioning will naturally occur with neglect as would be best with your hair anyway.
Part of my dreading journey is learning to let go a little (or a lot some days. Haha), have patience and trust the process.
I hope you find the path best for you.

yeah if you look at my first two sentences you'll see that I said I didn't think you were talking about it negatively.

good luck with TnR.

Renee L Mullenax said:

@ Journeyman, I wasn't intending to sound negative--by "plunge" I meant like a leap of faith or like when the water is freezing so you just jump right in rather than trying to work your way in slowly. I decided to jump right in LOL. A word isn't negative until someone MAKES it negative ;p And For you & Soaringeagle, I feel like, as a woman, the neglect method is not an option. Society throughout the ages has pretty much hardwired women to maintain their hair to a certain degree of beauty..therefore I'll be using the TnR method. THANK YOU EVERYBODY FOR ALL OF YOUR ADVICE!!!

you're right, I just mentioned the other two in the event that impatience surfaces. natural is the best.

soaring eagle said:

journeyman straight hair dreads just fine naturally no matter the hair type you should concider natural 1st and foremost

First off congrats I can tell you're excited at the very least about your impending journey. Just a quick sidebar before I get started I personally wouldn't consider it a "plunge" even though I don't think you intended for it to sound negative. Going through this journey is only positive. A lot of people choose not to attach any inner spirituality to the dreadlocks process but to each its own. I believe anything that you do to promote and sustain your own happiness is spiritual in some form or another. ANYWAYS if you have curly hair I highly, highly recommend the natural process. You basically throw away your comb and watch the loops and twists magically appear. Every day it looks different and you appreciate the time it takes to achieve the results you desire. However, it requires the most patience. So you're in for the long haul. The other two acceptable methods are TwistNRip or Backcombing if you happen to have hair that doesn't like to curl. Both of the tools for these methods can be found in the search forums if you look up those keywords. Tips on how/when to wash are also available there. Above all I would just say be PATIENT with yourself no matter what cause some days it's just flat out not gonna look the way you want it to. The end result you will appreciate though. Good luck!

yeah I like that chick's dreads too i've seen her a lot but dear lord i can't imagine how bad they smell

It's no big deal, that's just society being blissfully ignorant. They don't know better. Bob Marley, an iconic figure in history, was known to be Rastafarian. Hence, any normal Joe that sees someone with dreads is gonna associate that with a Rasta. It's just common ignorance. They're not dissing you, they just don't know better. I actually follow the Rasta concepts and I could care less what people think they're just mindlessly talking. It's not their fault. It's just Babylon. You don't seem too affected by it seem pretty chill so just keep doing you. Bless mane

Oh boy. So many red flags here. I'm gonna let SE take care of it when he gets here but here are your main problems:

Watching youtube dread videos. Major mistake. A good amount of them use horrible methods. In addition you are tailoring your dreads after some one else's and basically diluting your own individuality in the end product. It's not really an experience, it's dread cloning.

Crochet. Using a crochet needle effectively just set back your dreads an additional 6 months of recovery. The hair grows extremely slow. Very Very bad for the scalp. Look up traction alopecia that's what crocheting causes. It makes your hair roots weaker than normal over time and they will eventually break off. In addition they create the look of "manufactured" dreads also that look identical and robotic.

Dread Extensions: Okay so I'm really not sure why you would use those as you said your hair is about 4 inches long. Depending on your hair texture (especially if you have African texture) your hair could've naturally started dreading by itself. If it's not that texture you should've waited for it to grow out more before deciding to TwistnRip.

I hope you take a look at this before things get kinda bad.

I really don't think the crown area will dread just fine.

soaring eagle said:

yea tye didference in those who seen a professional is they did exrreme harm and caused threm to go bald

you really should not go back it will dread fine from here

Brother you can listen to your friends and people that already have dreads that will eventually have them fall out OR you can take heed of the advice people are giving here and how SERIOUS this situation is. You're gonna be almost entirely bald after like 5 months in breh. think of those twists as follicle asthma. Your scalp can barely breathe and move when the hair is twisted that tight. It's not able to naturally circulate blood flow. Anyways, you seem pretty sure of what you're doing so i'll just let you figure that your for yourself. Feel bad for you.

Wow forgive my language but what a bitch!! she has no right to do that to your hair wtf!! I don't mess with those kinda places anyways but damn that's really annoying to hear someone would try to mess you up like that. Hope you get it all out.