More progress in 1 day than I had in 1 year trying to 'make dreads'

Below is a repost of my story, which apparently inspired this discussion *blush.

If you don't learn anything else from this forum, learn this... Don't try to make dreads!!! They happen on their own, with a little help from some baking soda and apple cider vinegar. At least that's my experience in one day, after trying to backcomb and debating to use every sticky substance I could think of to make them dread, though I didn't actually ever put too much of anything in it.

My original question is under the help save my dreads section and I can't figure out how to post that link here, so if you want to read it, you gotta go search for it. :/ Anyway, here the original story of my progress in one day...

updated by @jeannie-pitt: 02/14/15 10:08:41AM

You are welcome You will go through different phases with your dreads. You will have days where you hate, love them, think they look awesome, think they look horrible...Lol One of the things that I have come to realize after almost 6 mos. is that it is what it is. I wake up to new surprises almost daily! I don't give it the thought that I used to, the anxiety has gone away. It's just me! After a time you will just kind of fall lovingly into the dreaded bliss of just being. Glad it has worked out for you...many blessings.

very well said pantera the best thing u can do is go on with your life like dreads dont matter like your not trying to dread

just let life happen and dreads will be the result

but the more u care about how they look the longer it will take to get there..just let go and go with the flow

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

It's funny you say 'just let life happen.' When I read ALL the responses about 'leave them alone' I had to chuckle to myself and wonder if I should apply that philosophy to the rest of my life as well. I'm in a few situations where I'm trying and trying and getting no results. The dread thing was only one of them. I come from a long line of fear-based living and I said out loud to myself in the mirror yesterday, 'If I want to be a true hippie, I gotta release all this fear!' rofl.

So, yeah. This forum has given me insight on more than just my dreads. I've let go of many things, but have a pile more to sift through. Let life happen is hard for me, but I'm working on it. As for the dreads...that's done. Letting them be, leaving them alone and letting them happen. Now on to the rest of it...

wdll lets talk dreads can be very much therapy a lifechanging adventure

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

Thank you Soaring Eagle! Dreads are truly not about hair...I came to this site and gained so much more.

soaringeagle said:

wdll lets talk dreads can be very much therapy a lifechanging adventure

my dear that was totally understandable, at least to me. That's pretty much exactly how I felt and still feel. It's kind of like when you're stranded all alone on a deserted island, and then you see a ship sailing in your direction with waving hands and smiles.

Glad you're here.

i think its time for a group hug haha

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

I wrote a poetry book called Hugs and Popsicles cause I agree...hugs for the emotional stuff, popsicles for the physical ailments...we're done!!

lol...bring on the group hug!

at the gatherings from ther very 1st one we started a tradition in council that we all hold hands in a circle so all people in the circle can see the eyes of all others and when your holding hands u dont have a free hand ti rais in anger

its worked will for us to help us get along and see eye to eye on any subject

ofcoursewe also hug all the time and even have hug patrols to make sure ppl get theyre daily doses

your very right hugs can disarm armies

and help ppl get along regardless of what they believe in

AstaNord said:

Hugs must be the solution for every war in the world! <3

soaringeagle said:

i think its time for a group hug haha

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1