updated by @victoria-hill: 01/13/15 09:50:33PM
The Knife and the Brush.
@victoria-hill
11 years ago
9 posts
updated by @victoria-hill: 01/13/15 09:50:33PM
@cole-morton
11 years ago
109 posts
Thank you for being courageous enough to share your story with us. I am so glad that you do not harm yourself physically any longer. I can completely empathize with your situation. I too have been a long time sufferer of bipolar disorder with bouts of severe panic and anxiety attacks. This process has become almost theraputic for me. While we all will still have many battles to conquer and mountains to move, life is worth the fight. I recently learned that I was passed over for a promotion due to my hair. I was crushed, it broke my spirit. I cried so hard and almost had a fuck it moment and brushed my hair. I love my job, I love my coworkers and it hurt to know my talents were being overlooked due to my apearence. Now, things in place of employment have improved and i had an open disscussion about my hair with my employer and we came to an agreement. Dreads were hard for her to understand, but she is trying, and that's all I can ask.
I hope that you continue to grow in journey and find the strength within yourself to know that you are beautiful and you are important. Happy dreading friend.
@soaring-eagle
11 years ago
29,640 posts
well i am so glad u feel confortable enough here to share such a story
and
i got to warn you...your being healed
cutting is a way to hack out emotions u shoved deep down rather thenm let out
what did you do when you looked in that mirror?
you cried
the 1 thing that could have kept u from chopping at your limbs...
a tear
a simple lil painless (well mostly painless) tear
u let those emotions out ..let yourself cry..be mad or sad ..just whatever u feel let it out but not in an overwhelming way let it be a pressure release not explosion
alotta parents will punish you for crying the more u want to cry the more they want to punish u for crying wich makes u feel sadder and sadder
but eventualy u dont want to be puicshed u dont want to feel and sadder so u stop crying ..but
then the sadness stays in you u try to be "perfect" so u wont be yelled at and made to feel sadder but theres already so much in you a single wordsall it takes to make that pressure build up so much theres only 1 release..blood soince a single tear would make it worse (or so you were tought throug punishment for tears)
its time to start accepting yourself
to stop caring what others think or say
and to let out a tear now and then and let things be..not perfect..but at least ok
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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1
@victoria-hill
11 years ago
9 posts
Thank you so much, both of you. Your comments really comfort me. I feel much less alone now. I can't thank you enough.
@amethyst777
11 years ago
95 posts
Very well said!
soaring eagle said:
well i am so glad u feel confortable enough here to share such a story
and
i got to warn you...your being healed
cutting is a way to hack out emotions u shoved deep down rather thenm let out
what did you do when you looked in that mirror?
you cried
the 1 thing that could have kept u from chopping at your limbs...
a tear
a simple lil painless (well mostly painless) tear
u let those emotions out ..let yourself cry..be mad or sad ..just whatever u feel let it out but not in an overwhelming way let it be a pressure release not explosion
alotta parents will punish you for crying the more u want to cry the more they want to punish u for crying wich makes u feel sadder and sadder
but eventualy u dont want to be puicshed u dont want to feel and sadder so u stop crying ..but
then the sadness stays in you u try to be "perfect" so u wont be yelled at and made to feel sadder but theres already so much in you a single wordsall it takes to make that pressure build up so much theres only 1 release..blood soince a single tear would make it worse (or so you were tought throug punishment for tears)
its time to start accepting yourself
to stop caring what others think or say
and to let out a tear now and then and let things be..not perfect..but at least ok
@rheana-hayes
10 years ago
26 posts
Thank you for sharing this. It's very personal and very real. I have bipolar disorder and must manage it with medication and counseling, and yeah, I got some old old issues with self worth, masochism, codependence, attracting sociopaths, and generally just beating the ever living fuck out of my own psyche and body. I hope you stay in therapy simply because I think it's a very quick path to more personal and spiritual growth, and it's changed my life dramatically even after only a year. We are never done working on ourselves, as our dreads are never done evolving neither are we. Check out bipolar disorder as well because I saw you say that every few weeks you make rash decisions and do big things, like flights of fancy. Most people with bipolar are misdiagnosed for an average of ten years because their doctors see their depressions, but they don't see the mania because the patient enjoys it and doesn't see anything wrong with it, doesn't grasp the destructive tendancies and emotional effects of that manic energy. I hope to hear more about your path, lovely lady. Take care of your temple, Try to transmute that hurt into healing energy for your body and soul rather than taking it out on your body and soul. So much love and light to you. Keep writing.
@rheana-hayes
10 years ago
26 posts
I like how you say I have to warn you... you're being healed. Healing can be as rough as being tumbled in a washer and dryer... but you come out on the other side clean.
soaring eagle said:
well i am so glad u feel confortable enough here to share such a story
and
i got to warn you...your being healed
cutting is a way to hack out emotions u shoved deep down rather thenm let out
what did you do when you looked in that mirror?
you cried
the 1 thing that could have kept u from chopping at your limbs...
a tear
a simple lil painless (well mostly painless) tear
u let those emotions out ..let yourself cry..be mad or sad ..just whatever u feel let it out but not in an overwhelming way let it be a pressure release not explosion
alotta parents will punish you for crying the more u want to cry the more they want to punish u for crying wich makes u feel sadder and sadder
but eventualy u dont want to be puicshed u dont want to feel and sadder so u stop crying ..but
then the sadness stays in you u try to be "perfect" so u wont be yelled at and made to feel sadder but theres already so much in you a single wordsall it takes to make that pressure build up so much theres only 1 release..blood soince a single tear would make it worse (or so you were tought throug punishment for tears)
its time to start accepting yourself
to stop caring what others think or say
and to let out a tear now and then and let things be..not perfect..but at least ok