My mother is your average consumer, she works a really tough job and like most people is really vain and insecure and prefers to dwell in her own misery and thus spreads negative energy around.
I moved away to Europe and haven't seen her for a long time because I had to find my own path. At first it was really difficult adjusting here because I was stuck in my bad habits and routines. But I've met some really awesome likeminded people and spend time with them a lot.
My mother like the majority of society absolutely does not understand dreadlocks. I sent her a long message about how I miss her and actually did love her my whole life but couldn't tell her because I hated myself. I explained to her that dreadlocks have given me confidence to just be myself without all the makeup and burning my hair etc. to fit in to everyone else's expectations. Free to literally just be myself!
She sent me a positive message about how she always knew I loved her but hated myself and had to have somebody to blame. But then she turned it negative and said " I love you no matter what, even if you are hiding in piercings and dreadlocks. " She tried to tell me how soft my hair was when I was a baby..yes but because chemicals were placed on it!
This comment honestly upsets me a bit simply because it's the total opposite!! Dreadlocks have set me free to be myself! My whole life I was hiding, I'm done hiding!! Not to mention piercings and dreadlocks are not the same!
How do I explain this to her in the kindest way possible. Natural hair is natural beauty! Hair is power!
updated by @madison-majhen: 09/20/15 05:46:18AM