hello all, i am new to the site and loving it! wanted to put my story up in case anyone can offer some support or advice. i am a momma of 2 dreaddy babes, and both my husband and i have recently restarted our own dreads.
the longest running dreads in our family are those of my 5-yr old daughters... she has never had a haircut and they were started about 8 months ago and run almost down to her butt... our starting methods were primitive and uninformed: backcombing, elastics, some lock-accelorating gel, and a few months of wax. the only reason i started waxing her dreads was because she got lice very early on. unfortunately, everything we have tried to get rid of them has failed so far. now we are all infested. we have done the store-bought leave-in spray, vinegar soaks (overnight), tried smothering them in wax (now left with a huge mess to clean up and not sure how to go about that) also, her dreads dont seem to be locking up properly, they are very wispy still, most are flat, with curls of virgin hair coming out in all directions... will post a pic if i can get ahold of a camera (my darling sent my iphone swimming) the last issue i can think of with her hair is the black gunk left behind from the elastics... was wondering if there is a better way of getting clumps out than just pulling them out with my fingers, and tearing up whatever dread its in...?
my husband has very curly hair, almost "black hair" for a white boy... his hair was not even shoulder length when we dreadded it... and he wanted big nasty thick dreads, so we started with 13. he had a large one on his crown which has broken itsself down into several smaller ones, and now he is wishing they were all that size, because they are forming so much faster than his big ones. he also did a few dreads with the interlocking method (weaving the dread thru a hole in the root) and now they all kind of just stick to his head. i'm hoping time and growth will fix this issue, but if anyone has any tips, we'd sure appreciate them. he kind of looks like a brillo pad now, since his dreads stick to his head, and all his loose hairs are so curly
as for myself, i started mine at the same time as my husband. my hair is very white... straight and baby fine, the type that won't hold a braid. we both initially backcombed them, but, as usual, the knots slipped out within a week, so we took to twist and rip which was much more effective. once they were all ripped, we both also used a crochet hook to tame them, because we were both job hunting (and both found work with new crazy-looking dreads, very happy). i have done some palm rolling, but not daily. now some knots are slipping out again, but only to a point; the top half of my dreads are staying in, so i'm hoping that, again, time will heal all. i feel very poofy right now, and am a bit OCD about my hair, but i'm learning to get over it. just wondering if i should keep TnR'ing the bottoms of the dreads or leave them.
my son is almost 3 and wanted dreads but did not want to endure the pain he watched the rest of us go thru during the backcombing process... he fought with me anytime i tried to brush his hair (he has also never had a haircut), so i just stopped and let it do its thing. now he is getting some good form, tho he has a massive beaver tail in the back at the base of his neck. i am wondering if i should break it down into smaller ones so it doesn't become problematic later; the rest of his free formed ones are all pretty small and beautiful...
we dont do a whole lot as far as cleaning regimen. i use a lil BS in the shower, just pepper it on and rub it into my scalp, mostly to relieve itching. then i rinse with vinegar, and let it foam up on my head. feels awesome. not sure my husband has even washed his yet, and my kids don't get much more than BS when they're in the tub... only wash maybe 1-2x/wk. i need to deal with the lice before our hair locks up too much more. that is my #1 priority. was looking to make a homemade shampoo or leave-in spray that will both benefit our dreads as well as treat the lil buggers. anyone have an awesome recipe to share? i have looked a bit at the ones on this site, but not sure which is best and will handle everything i need... and be good for all our different hair types.
so thats about it... or at least thats all i can think of that needs to be shared. any tips on any of our issues are truly welcomed, we do not want to lose our dreads, we can't wait until they are all formed enough to have some awesome family photos thank you all, blessed be. )0( /|\
updated by @indiga-silverhawk: 02/14/15 03:29:51AM