SE do you have any photos of kids who have dreaded since birth? I'm considering never even starting the brushing battle with my youngest daughter.
soaring eagle said:
ive known alotta kids who dreaded young and a few that dreaded from birth they all were such happy well adjusted kids
and im sure shed understand everything involved when u explain it all
I totally thought rapunzel should have had dreads...
Tied up in knots said:
We're leaving my 2.5 year olds hair alone. His hair is silky and wavy though so you can't tell that we don't own brushes. He's unfortunate though in that everyone wants to touch his hair so it never gets a chance to knot up.
Explain to your husband that letting her hair dread isn't "Doing something" to her. Forcing her to have her hair combed IS and she obviously hates it. Why force her to endure something she doesn't have to? There's no reason for her to not have dreadlocks other than the opinions of other people and you know what? Other people are stupid as hell.
He loves his little girl right? He wants her to be happy as she can be? So why would he want to force her to do something that has no real benefit to her and only causes her pain? Dreadlocks are a legitimate hair style. Famous people, doctors, lawyers, people of all walks and ages have them so why shouldn't she? Especially if it will make her life easier?
He needs to focus on what matters. She needs to be clean. She needs to be healthy. She needs to be happy. Dreadlocks don't stop any of that from happening. Instead they help. Her hair will be cleaner without conditioners, her hair will be healthier if it's not being abused every day, and she will be happier because she doesn't need to sit through combings.
I remember being a little girl with a lot of hair. My hair was straight but it would break combs like nobodies business. My mom had to put leave in conditioner in my hair and braid it before bed simply so we wouldn't have to spend an hour brushing it out in the morning. I hated it. I hated bath time because it meant combing my hair. I hated getting ready for school because we had to deal with my hair. I hated my mom because she was the one who combed my hair. The only thing I hated worse than combing my hair was the idea of looking like a boy. I did NOT want short hair.
Are you the one "in charge" of her hair? If so, make your husband do it for a while. See what he says after a week of fighting her hair.
And really, how is choosing to cut her hair short any different from choosing to let it dread? They're both hairstyles that would make life easier for everyone. The only difference I see is that short hair has to be forced whereas her hair will dread on its own for free. And she can keep her long hair. Maybe I'm projecting but most little girls like to have long "princess" hair. Dreads will let her have that without having to brush it all out. (Speaking of princess hair...anyone else think Rapunzel should have saved herself some grief, locked her hair, and made herself a rope ladder? Yeah..that would have been too smart...)
As far as any fears of kids being mean to her...dreads won't change that. Kids are sometimes just mean and if they decide to be assholes they will find anything to make fun of and if they can't find anything they will make it up. I was called fat all through school. Even in elementary school. I looked through old photos recently and you know what? I wasn't fat. Not even slightly. Kids are nuts.
And you know...as far as kids go I'm pretty sure they think dreadlocks are pretty cool. I've never met a kid who got made fun of for having a mohawk, dreads, or funky dyed hair. Kids love that shit.
she is absolutely adorable. & dreads would look great on her. if she wants them let it go.
my oldest just turned 3 & Dh had said if we couldn't keep up on her knots we should cut it all off. I don't want to do that, especially when she can't make that decision for herself. At her birthday party this weekend I had to brush her hair 3 times during the day! It's crazy & such a hassle. I can't wait until she can voice her opinion & I just hope she wants dreads as much as I want her to have them 
They get sectioned & started to knot & loop overnight, I wish my worked that quickly!
I'm debating heading this fight off with our second daughter by just never even starting to brush her hair....my family is going to give us a lot of guff about my dreads, so I know if any of our children have them that will be a huge issue as well, but if it's what the girls want it's what they can have...it's just hair it can be cut off brushed out or left be. Whatever my girls want to do with it, it's theirs & I was never given a choice with my own until I moved out so I know how that can go.
agreed taht children with dreads are absolutely gorgeous!
Valrie said:
I think dreads on children are really really cute. I know my son likes the idea but gets really impatient when it's long and in his face because he is very active and sweats a LOT. Also, his school was hit recently with lice so I was grateful he has short hair now. He's in the first grade and if he told me this is what he wanted then I would help him achieve it.
Looks like how my son's hair was before he decided he wanted to let them lock. He has had his dreadlocks for about 6yrs and likes them alot. He decided when He was about 7 that he didn't want his hair combed anymore and that is when I asked him if he just wanted to just let his hair lock. I told all of the many methods out there and of the method that I see as being the most healthiest choice in my opinion and he opted for let his hair freeform like me. Now he has long healthy dreadies and couldn't imagine his life without them.
Feel free to ask me any question that you like. I have a few pictures of my son and his dreadlocks on my page.
My daughter had never had her hair brushed, and she has a TON. She started forming a single dread at the back of her head, I wanted to leave it, but hubby untangled it with his fingers - he said he wanted her old enough to decide for herself before attaching her with a social stigma. She is 11 months so obviously too young to agree to anything other than a diaper or boob at this point, we will see. Pi (3) says he wants dreads, but his hair is too short right now for them. He is awful about getting his hair washed, we're growing out his hair and I told him if he agrees to his hair washings he can have dreads, if not then I will cut his hair again. Time will tell
thank you for the info!african americans are naturaly resistent to lice
u still can get em but its not very likely at all
and if u do get em its not that hard to get rid of lice in dreads
it seems like she loves the pics I've showed her of dreaded hair, so that's a good thing! I'll be waging her hair tomorrow and do a bit of sectioning I don't have advice really because I don't care what other people think, but she is darling, and if she can make an informed decision, I'd totally let her hair dread! She would be adorable. My sister went through similar and had to have super short hair growing up since she would bawl every time my mom got the brush or comb out. No one even considered dreads, which is sad!
she is absolutely adorable. & dreads would look great on her. if she wants them let it go.
my oldest just turned 3 & Dh had said if we couldn't keep up on her knots we should cut it all off. I don't want to do that, especially when she can't make that decision for herself. At her birthday party this weekend I had to brush her hair 3 times during the day! It's crazy & such a hassle. I can't wait until she can voice her opinion & I just hope she wants dreads as much as I want her to have them
I'm debating heading this fight off with our second daughter by just never even starting to brush her hair....my family is going to give us a lot of guff about my dreads, so I know if any of our children have them that will be a huge issue as well, but if it's what the girls want it's what they can have...it's just hair it can be cut off brushed out or left be. Whatever my girls want to do with it, it's theirs & I was never given a choice with my own until I moved out so I know how that can go.
Looks like how my son's hair was before he decided he wanted to let them lock. He has had his dreadlocks for about 6yrs and likes them alot. He decided when He was about 7 that he didn't want his hair combed anymore and that is when I asked him if he just wanted to just let his hair lock. I told all of the many methods out there and of the method that I see as being the most healthiest choice in my opinion and he opted for let his hair freeform like me. Now he has long healthy dreadies and couldn't imagine his life without them.
Feel free to ask me any question that you like. I have a few pictures of my son and his dreadlocks on my page.
