So I haven't even started my dreads yet and I already feel awful about them!
I am starting my dreads on Tuesday, after coming back from a trip to Idaho for my grandma's 90th birthday. I'm travelling with my mom and two brothers. Mom and I are sharing a room and so tonight I mentioned to Mom that I was going to dreadlock my hair. Now, I wasn't expecting a glowing reaction, I expected a semi-dissappointed/skeptical type reaction.
Instead, I got: "WHAT? Ohh noooo Janna don't do that!?! Oh my god! Dreadlocks?!? The are so .. gross. Ugly, you have such perfect hair! Why would you want to do that?" And lots of "ughs" and sighs and even "why did you have to say that? ..ruined my vacation"
I felt like crying! A few minutes later she asked if I was upset with her because of her reaction. I said no but she knew I was lying :P She did apologize and tried to explain her side/thinking. She grew up really rural and so she has very kind of conservative/social conventional views about style and such. She also said I didn't really ruin her vacation. But of course, once that's said it's hard to really take it back.
I guess I just needed to vent a little bit about it and hope maybe some of you have a little advice on how to deal or handle this. Mom and I have always been really close, I think this is the first time I've ever had such a big (negative) reaction from her. I've gone from being really excited about starting a dreadlocks journey to feeling guilty about it.
updated by @janna: 02/14/15 06:26:46AM