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Is it not meant to be for me?

James Turk
@james-turk
4 years ago
107 posts

How would you give up? By brushing it? Just give up worring about it. You have tons a patience, hang in there. I hear that the longer you wait the more you love em. How are you drying it? Are you letting it air dry?


updated by @james-turk: 07/23/15 02:32:01AM
Panterra Caraway
@panterra-caraway
4 years ago
665 posts

Hi Butterfly! Okay...first...please do not give up! I have looked through what everyone has said and I do agree with almost all of it. Your hair does look very healthy and slick. You have alot of hair and that body you referred to is a bit of wave. But coarse hair can be a challenge...trust me, you and I have very similar hair (mine is just curlier in spots). The first thingI suggest is this...wet your hair thoroughly and apply a paste (yes, a paste!) of BS. Try to avoid the scalp, as it can be very irritating. Leave that paste on a good half hour, then rinse thoroughly. It may take awhile to get it all rinsed well, but rinse the daylights out of it. Now, after that you may find your hair feels horrible...dry, a bit gritty even...good! That is just what you want. You have to realize that a scratchy, rough feel is going to give you some knots. That was my problem. Being a hair professional, I clung to the concept that my hair was going to remain soft and silky but somehow dread...ain't gonna happen unfortunately. If you find that your hair still feels pretty good after the paste...wait a week and do it again. Once you rough up that cuticle, you will find it can begin to progress. It took my hair a bit over 8 mos. to even have one knot! So, I do understand your frustration. Next month I will hit my 2 years...and baby, I have a full head of pretty mature dreads (just some ends sticking out here and there!). I am so glad I stuck it out! Also, for your washing...try a regular size coffee cup full of BS and no ACV, shampoo three times a week and after you are shampooed try spraying your hair with a sea salt solution...don't get it on your scalp and don't rinse it out...air dry. Keep sleeping on that wool. And best idea of all, use those beads! They will work miracles...you won't believe it! Try the wood ones, small as you can go. Contact me anytime you feel discouraged, I will bemore than happy to help. I have been there...truly. I know you want to forget it, I know you feel let down and you think that maybe it wasn't meant to be...none of that is so...I promise. Much love and Big (((HUGS))) <3

Butterfly
@butterfly
4 years ago
56 posts

OMG, thank you all so much for your encouragement and support. It means so much. I'm going to try everything you suggested because at this point I've gone so long I have nothing to lose, right?

To James Turk - by giving up I mean yes I would just brush it out or go get it cut short or something. I've always had fairly short layered hairstyles. To answer your question about drying, I had been letting it air dry, but recently I started using my hair dryer because I had read on here somewhere that it might help damage it more to help it lock up sooner.

Ok, Panterra I'm going to try your paste idea lol!!! It sounds horrible but I'll do it. And I'll also put some beads in. I don't understand how the beads work because I thought your hair had to be able to move to lock up and if it's in beads then it can't move. But everybody is telling me to put beads in so I will. I have some beads because I use to make some jewelry so I'll use those. I have one month till my one year of no brushing no combing, so we'll see what happens!

Panterra Caraway
@panterra-caraway
4 years ago
665 posts

So glad you are going to give it a try Butterfly! I am sending positive vibes your way <3
Butterfly said:

OMG, thank you all so much for your encouragement and support. It means so much. I'm going to try everything you suggested because at this point I've gone so long I have nothing to lose, right?

To James Turk - by giving up I mean yes I would just brush it out or go get it cut short or something. I've always had fairly short layered hairstyles. To answer your question about drying, I had been letting it air dry, but recently I started using my hair dryer because I had read on here somewhere that it might help damage it more to help it lock up sooner.

Ok, Panterra I'm going to try your paste idea lol!!! It sounds horrible but I'll do it. And I'll also put some beads in. I don't understand how the beads work because I thought your hair had to be able to move to lock up and if it's in beads then it can't move. But everybody is telling me to put beads in so I will. I have some beads because I use to make some jewelry so I'll use those. I have one month till my one year of no brushing no combing, so we'll see what happens!

Butterfly
@butterfly
4 years ago
56 posts

Ok, I put the BS paste on. It was so gross lol. My hair is drying now and it feels very dry and frizzy so I'm sure that's a good thing. I put about 5 beads in different sections. I had some very small wooden beads that I had used for jewelry. So we'll see how it goes from here!

☮ soaring eagle ॐ
@soaring-eagle
4 years ago
27,412 posts

t shouldnr be a paste!




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Heather
@heather
4 years ago
1,294 posts
she's doing what panterra suggested.

soaring eagle said:

t shouldnr be a paste!

☮ soaring eagle ॐ
@soaring-eagle
4 years ago
27,412 posts

aaahh i didnt see that interesting and worth trying i thought she was using a paste as a regular wash




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Butterfly
@butterfly
4 years ago
56 posts

Yes Panterra suggested I try a paste one time, maybe twice to see if that would help. So today was my first attempt.

Sarah Weathers
@sarah-weathers
4 years ago
42 posts

some distress to the hair seems to help, as bad as that sounds. mine is very long, fine, and straight/silky. it has begun to dread because of immense stress caused by a salon screwing up my hair by giving me "dreads" via backcombing and wax. but the distress that caused, and then the further distress of removing the wax with white vinegar soaks and dish soap washing has truly helped my hair to dread. i think any sort of distress or CHANGE to your hair can cause it to dread. my hair wasn't used to all it went through and begun to knot up. beads do help a LOT too.

 
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