you can't always choose the people who surround you only seek to enlighten them.. they maybe racist, sexist, elitist, whatever .. you will always fin people who are against the things you believe in..
you can try to enlighten them
you can try to accept them biases flaws and all
or you can leave them behind and find new friends with common ground
very often its only those who are extreme in their hatred and aggressive in pushing their will on you that require you to step away
most biases although they can be ugly are rooted in the experiences of their youth
what i mean is say someone who had bad experiences with homosexuals might be biased against them ,and you can understand that based on their experiences without accepting it as something you agree with. but then if that person was one of the god hates fags crowd, or violently attacks people for being gay then that is beyond unacceptable and when you have no choice but walk away (well you do have a choice if your a strong person with strong will you can spend years trying to change how they act and feel and you may or may not succeed .. that takes a special strength though and for most its simpler to just separate and not let that affect you)
you see what i'm getting at i hope
everyone has opinions and baggage that colors their perceptions you can change the perception by living as an example , you can just accept that they are who they are.. only when they are making you miserable, or scared, or just cannot accept the level if their prejudices that you should walk away..far away and find people you relate to
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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1