well most of that is totally normal, though i would recommend the liquid shampoos till mature then bars
the dread caps goofy a waste of money
beenies will slow or prevent progress so ditch that too
when you wash just lather the scalp i scrape at it with my nails then rinse through your probly rubbing the hair around too much
plus putting that silly cap on to wash could be unknotting them too
other then that everything you said is perfectly normal at this stage..you might be loosening them up more then normal..but loosening is part of the early process
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