I regret moving (I just need to vent).

Have you ever moved away from home, found somewhere beautiful to live, but moved back to where you are from because you have an emotional attachment to it?

I am from Florida, Sarasota to be exact. One of the most expensive cities in Florida, because we have the nations #1 beach. My husband is from Ohio.

We moved from Florida to Ohio and lived there for a little over a year. I loved it. It was beyond breathtaking. The seasons were incredible, the people were friendly, and living was cheap. I missed my friends and my family, who were all still in Florida. They would remind me daily about how much they miss us and wanted us to come back. I got pregnant and when winter hit in Ohio (if you are from up north you'll vouch that this past winter was AWFUL!) I had a newborn (and a 2 year old). I was cooped up inside and miserable (I have a feeling post partum depression hit a tiny bit as well). All I wanted to do was go back to Florida, where the heat was and where my friends/family were. I talked my husband into it although he didn't want to go back whatsoever (he only has bad memories from Florida, aside from meeting me).

We've been here since the end of January.

I forgot how miserably hot and humid it is, how rude everyone is who lives here, how expensive the cost of living is. I forgot that there is little to no nature whatsoever aside from a million palm trees. I was given a link, it said that a quarter of a MILLION people moved to Florida within the year we were in Ohio. What used to take us 10 minutes to get to, now takes us 45. It's nearly impossible to get to the beaches and it costs almost $800 for a ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT (if you're lucky enough to even find one).

The past winter in Ohio, yeah it sucked, it really did. But the more I think about it the more I realize that the only reason I disliked it was because I had a newborn, I couldn't go play in it- I was too worried about keeping him warm. When my boys are between the ages of 3-5 they would have SO much fun playing in the snow...and I could play in it with them! When spring hits the beautiful nature would come back and we could go hiking in the woods and go exploring...

I didn't think I would miss living there, I really didn't. But... all of the reasons we moved back are non-existent now. My family, we lived with them for a month when we first moved back and we quickly found out EXACTLY how they really felt about us... I've always been the black sheep of my family (of 7) so it didn't really surprise me. My so-called friends that COULDN'T WAIT to see me, the ones that BEGGED US to move back, I haven't seen even 5% of them since we moved back. Cost of living is too expensive, my husband is MISERABLE because he's working 70+ hours a week and we're BARELY getting by!

I am at war with myself. I tell Anthony (my husband) daily that I think I made a big mistake moving back here. I really do wish we had never come back. The few friends that I did make in Ohio were better people all around than ANY of my friends here. Not to mention the fact that I'm TERRIFIED that my boys will get into the AWFUL drug scene down there, especially since the education system here is terrible...... I don't know what to do. I really don't. :'(

Sorry, this was long and I rambled a lot.... I just have no one else/no where else to post this to and I needed to get it all out. If you actually read it all, what would you do?

updated by @mamakittylove: 10/16/19 08:20:37PM

sounds like u should go back

yea last winter sucked..but.. living in pa all my lidfe ive nev er seen a winter like that

tho...u must also realize that thje climate is destabalizing..and good ol florida is the biggest risk state for super storms and huricanes

few years back my parents had bewen living on a boat f9r a ferw years but then bought a condo in fla..the very 1st year there they had not 1..not 2..but 3 huricanes one after another direct hit thier town

they rode out the storms sincve my dad was like the condo ..i dunno whgat they call it but was the 1 that had to watch out for stuff so they stayed to make sure the buildings wernt looted

anyway..point of this rambling story is they vacated asap and moved to ga

if the climate issues not fixed in a hurry fla is the last place u will want to live

most winters here we get maybe 3 snowfalls .;.yea it gets cold but not as drasticly cold as some places..in fact idf im not gonna bne iut in it for houers i dont bother even putting on long sleeves let alone a jacket

now when i was down in tulsa..pretty far south the winters were 70 1 day -12 the next..and the cold was absolutely brutal..nev er felt cold like that here

to me tho pa is like that always suckin me bacok id escape awhile find somewhere i totaly loved and bamn something sucks me backi here i think 6 months was the longwest i ever escaped..well nmo there was the time it took a year to get back from a gatheringi guess that was the longest i managed to stay away

yoiu know whats weird tho

the thiung that always bothered me the most about here was the fact i had too many freinds here and couldnt go an ywhere at all and not run into ozens of freinds

but as i8t turns out no matter where i ended up i ran into ppl i knew ..almost always within hours or a day of arivinmg so it really didnt make all that much diference

so the places i miss the most its all about the bneauty..like the greeness of the nw the sunsets over the dessert the mountains or waterfalks

and more and more i think thats really what i need to be happy in a place to live

its not about the ppl the freinds or family but all about the naturew that surounds me

srry if i ramnbled too much

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

Thanks for your story and input SE That is exactly how I feel. The nature, the forests. All of that I miss so much, and FL doesn't have it whatsoever.

I miss this:

and this:

Florida just doesn't seem like home anymore. How I expected to feel when we moved back isn't even close to how I really feel now. I wonder if we could move back...

There's nothing wrong with venting and I know how you feel, minus the move. I live in Las Vegas and have for most all of my life and I have gotten to the point that I want out of here so bad that some days that's all I think about. I've grown up out here since since 2nd grade and am now 41. I used to love (when I was younger) how nothing ever closed and for some of my early 20's enjoyed the hell out of it. I worked grave and partied during the day with friends. I am on disability now and have been for almost 2 years, the sad part is that almost all my friends were my co-workers of 19 years...now that I'm gone I'm out of sight out of mind. Don't get me wrong, I love being home for my daughter when she gets home from school (Zoey's almost 15) and making my family dinner but most days all I think of is getting out of here. I for some odd reason want to move to Oregon so bad I can taste it. Yummy, rain,tall green trees and beaches! I haven't been there since I was about 3 so other than other pics I see I have no idea why Oregon. I am lonely in Vegas, I hate the dry desert heat with a passion and since I started dreading it has gotten worse. I want to be outdoors, but in a beautiful place. I understand the financial aspect as I am on a limited income but I can't talk my husband into leaving for anything. The funny thing is while I was working, I was a cocktail waitress in a casino making great money with wonderful benefits, I was the one afraid to give it up. Now the shoe hasn't just switched feet but doesn't want to come off his foot..lol. I'm sorry for ranting for so long I just feel your pain as well. I wish the best for you and your family. I realize how expensive it is to move but maybe something wonderful will come your way and allow you to go back to Ohio. Good luck with everything and you've always got a friend here!!!

I am also from Florida (Pensacola, so different area). I moved to Colorado 7.5 years ago, best decision of my life. I have not moved back, so I cannot empathize with that part, but I can definitely say that leaving Florida & finding a state that was right for me has allowed for me to blossom into the individual I am. Florida did not allow me to harness that. I know that with life (& for you, kids), the idea of moving back may be challenging. But it sounds like maybe it's worth it for you & your hubby's piece of mind. Sounds like once you get there, things - like affordable housing- would be more available & less expensive. Try not to be too hard on yourself; it sounds like you did what was right for you & your family at the time, & you needed the emotional support that your family could provide (or you thought they could provide). & now it's time for change!- embrace it as best you can.

Also- I agree with SE. For me, my surroundings have definite correlation to my happiness levels. Big cities, smog, pollution, close minded individuals- that makes me sad. Mountains, streams, trees, hippies, open minded individuals- that makes me happy. So, even if it's expensive to do it-- you are young, & all you have is now- go for it!

id much rather be in colorodo then fla

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My new book Ban The Taboo Vol 1

Yup so much truth and good advice on here. It sucks to leave old friends behind. I guess real community its important not just being with folk that your comfortable with but people you can really do life with, have common interest with. (I totally know how you feel. All my old friends from back home keep begging at us to come home.) but something just doesnt feel right. You need to be where your soul and your family are happy, and where you and your family can life the life your dream of. Wherever that is, if you have the opportuniy then take it. Life is to short to live on if onlys or what ifs. Much easier said than done i know. Keep us posted, we all here for ya x