: ] Thanks a bunch..
It warms my heart to hear your mom loves you for who you are. I can tell you're a special spirit who listens to her own drum, too. It's good to meet you here :o) x0x
I feel ya on the diehard punk rocker.. Mom always told me I was born about 40 years too late.. She has embraced the fact that I am different and not identical to the other kiddos. My other siblings are too concerned with what everyone else thinks about them and I am quite the opposite. Its good to know that I'm not the only one.
@Karrington -- you're so welcome! I definitely relate to those feelings of being excited and a little afraid. Good for you that you're putting your feet down on the path. I so hear you on being the "odd duck". I'm a diehard punk rocker from the 70's and 80's days and my family always looked at me like I was a godless freak. I think that's what helped prepare me for the strange, uneasy winds I felt during the early periods of my dread journey. Do you know what I mean when I say "extremely dysfunctional self-hatred"?? Back when I started in '95, there weren't a lot of people wearing dreads around me -- and definitely not in my family. All I heard for the longest time were so many derogatory words and self-hating statements about the ugliness of wearing natural hair as opposed to frying it with relaxers and hot combs or shelling out hundreds for weaves to look like an anglo/euro gal. And you want to know one of the craziest things right now??? Some of the most critical, hateful ones are now approaching me for help/advice in starting THEIR dreads. It's like serious cases of selective amnesia! I try to keep a balanced heart about it, though. Life is short and can be such a crazy journey -- and the natural hair and dreadlock journeys are just as challenging and full of surprises.
Keep exploring and discovering the beautiful story in your budding dreads, luv. After all of these years, I STILL fall more and more in love with my dreads every day. It's so worth it. Enjoy the ride x0x0x
@BoweryDoll Thanks so much! I am excited and scared about it.. But, I feel like if I don't do it now, I will regret it down the road. I have always been the odd duck in my family so, it was only a matter of time before I finally made up my mind. Thanks for the words of encouragement
@Karrington -- thank you for the sweet compliment, chica. Welcome to the journey. Your young dreaddies look like they're off to a great, healthy start. It's been 16 years for me now, but I still remember how it felt in my early days and weeks when I first decided to start them. If you ever need an extra ear for some perspective (especially on those days where you feel a little shaky) don't hesitate to give me a shout. Be gentle and loving with yourself and your growing garden. The journey is so worth it x0x
@Kathleen -- thank you, luv!!
@Hippiegal -- thank you so much, chica. When I think of our dreads I do think of the beauty of trees and their roots. It's so worth the journey x0x