what are u washing with and how u shouldnt tnr over and over its probly how your washing or drying thats undoing progress every time
hope he understands
alot of his reservations maybe fear vbased.. what will my colueges think will they think badly of me if they see my wife with dreads ..
the old im embarrassed to be seen with you thing
this will cause stress at 1st while they form but as they matyre when you get lots of complimentse..from his freinds coworkers and colegues tht tune will change he will see its not something to be enmbarrassed about but something to be proud of
unless hes the type thbat can get 100000 compliments and 1 insult and only the insult registers in his mind..self esteem issues cause some ppl to only hear the negative and ignore all positives..
well just tell him its something you need to do for you something youve wanted..no needed to do for over 10 years and something that is nesacary to feel like yourself and be happy with who you are
and its not aboput appearance but how you feel and hes got to put your happiness and wellbeing before his own confort with how you look
then ask him if you got a flesh eating bacteria that ate your face off if hed leave you
or if you got scarred in a fire or accident
if appearance matters more then your happiness then whats that say for the relationship?
remind ghim you cant always control everything in your life at any time you could be disfigured lose a limb develop a skin condition hell get a cancer that makes you lose your hair
so what diference would it make if the change was due to a horrible accident that burned your face..or something you alowed to happen intentionaly to further your quest for happiness and sense of self?
and yea a loose pony tails fine but if yu do it alot it will slow things a bit and u will have to seperate more if u tie em alot